Today is Father’s Day and I wanted to take a minute to remember some really important men in my life. First I have my father. He lives in Florida. Unfortunately growing up he was not a part of my life, even though he lived in the same town. My parents divorced when I was 8, in the third grade. When my parents divorced I only saw my father a few times after they divorced, not consistently. I grew up angry and bitter at my father. I wrote him really nasty, and mean letters. All of which went unanswered. When I was 19 and gave birth to my daughter I went to go see him to show him his gran-daughter. I tried to be a part of his life again. The last time I saw him was when my oldest daughter was four years old, and that was 16 and a half years ago. I have since been back in touch with him, via letters, e-mail and the phone. I have through God’s grace and His forgiveness, been able to forgive my father and have a relationship with him. So, I would like to say to my father, Happy Father’s Dad.
Now I want to talk about my step-father Ralph. This is a funny, but very cool story. (ALL true) When I was going into the fifth grade my brother, my mom and I moved into our home in Goose Creek, South Carolina. I loved next door to my step-father and his four sons. He was a single father raising all these boys. There was Jody, now age 39; Jamie, now aged 38; Daniel, now aged 36 or 37 I am not sure; and David, now aged 35-36 again I am not sure. Anyhow, we kids were all about the same age. My brother and I grew up with Ralph’s sons. When I was 18, and a senior in high school we moved to North Charleston, but I continued to go to my high school with Ralph’s boys through my senior year. It was about two months before my oldest daughter was born when my mom “re-met” Ralph (my step-father). They started dating and married in April of 1989. So, when they married I gained another 4 brothers, all of whom I already knew well.
My step-father has always been there for me and my family. He has loved us unconditionaly and did anything he could to help us. He has went out of his way, numerous times to help us and show us how much he loves and accepts us, just for us. He has never treated me or my children, unkind, or anything but like family. He loves my children like his own grandchildren. He is their Papa, and they know no difference. I am so thankful that the Lord brought Ralph into all of our lives, mainly for my mother. She has worked her whole adult life to support her two children, sometimes having to work more than one job. I have seen her dog dead tired yet she would go on to her second job to provide for us. Now, she is blessed to be able to stay at home. Ralph treats my mother like a queen. He treats her with so much love and loyalty, its awesome to see. I am blessed when I get to spend time with them.
I went yesterday with my youngest daughter to my mom and Ralph’s house. We went for the day. They live about an hour and a half away from me on the lake. We had a great time just hanging out. I got to see my step-brother Jamie, his girlfriend Rita and a friend from our old neighborhood, who I graduated high school with. I saw Steve and his two daughters. I had not seen Steve in ten years. It was good to see everyone and just hang out.
I am so blessed to have a loving and wonderful father and a terrific and loving Dad in Ralph. He has always treated me like his daughter.
I have one other Father I want to talk about. My Heavenly Father. Without Him, I would not be able to go on each day. My Heavenly Father is ALWAYS there for me, no matter what. He is always listening, ALWAYS with me, and knows my past and loves me despite my mistakes. My Heavenly Father KNOWS my future and how I am going to mess up and loves me despite the mistakes I will make. He knows my heart and He knows my desires. I am so blessed that God gives me grace each and every day. I am so blessed that my joy and hope comes from HIM, who gives me life.
Psalm 139:1-19 Are my favorite verses about how God, MY HEAVENLY FATHER knows me!
1 O LORD, you have searched me
and you know me.
2 You know when I sit and when I rise;
you perceive my thoughts from afar.
3 You discern my going out and my lying down;
you are familiar with all my ways.
4 Before a word is on my tongue
you know it completely, O LORD.
5 You hem me in—behind and before;
you have laid your hand upon me.
6 Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
too lofty for me to attain.
7 Where can I go from your Spirit?
Where can I flee from your presence?
8 If I go up to the heavens, you are there;
if I make my bed in the depths, you are there.
9 If I rise on the wings of the dawn,
if I settle on the far side of the sea,
10 even there your hand will guide me,
your right hand will hold me fast.
11 If I say, “Surely the darkness will hide me
and the light become night around me,”
12 even the darkness will not be dark to you;
the night will shine like the day,
for darkness is as light to you.
13 For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.
15 My frame was not hidden from you
when I was made in the secret place.
When I was woven together in the depths of the earth,
16 your eyes saw my unformed body.
All the days ordained for me
were written in your book
before one of them came to be.
17 How precious to me are your thoughts, O God!
How vast is the sum of them!
18 Were I to count them,
they would outnumber the grains of sand.
When I awake,
I am still with you.
Thank you God for blessing me with two humanly fathers. Thank you for their love in my life. I praise you God because you loved me, even when I was unworthy of being loved.
Have a blessed Father’s Day!
Blessings,
Kim
